Adolescence is marked by a strong desire for autonomy and independence. As such, it is often difficult for parents to maintain a close relationship and discuss certain sensitive issues with their teen. The fact that technologies feature prominently in their lives may also be another barrier to maintaining open lines of communication.
“Technology undermines close relationships within the family. Everyone keeps to themselves. There is less communication.”
– Mother of a 15-year-old boy
Having regular conversations on different topics, applications they use and technological habits for instance, helps to keep abreast of changes in your teen’s life. It also helps broach sensitive subjects. The main idea is to avoid having discussions with your child solely to share your concerns or to address a pressing issue.
Listening and being open, as opposed to controlling, is essential to harmonious communication with your teen. Teenagers who feel judged or fear punishment will not speak freely and could avoid talking to you, even if they need help. Letting them know you are always there for them, in any circumstances, may encourage discussions. Talking about your own adolescence, letting your teen know how you felt and what you thought at their age, might also help.
It may be easier to share your concerns by using situations that aren’t personal. Bringing into play something you saw in a film or series and asking questions like “what would you have done?” is an effective way of introducing sensitive issues. Specialized tools, such as these short videos and related discussion guides on how to address different situations, are another.
To read more about popular applications and games among young people, ways to address certain situations or tools to better guide your teen, check out our other articles.
When your teen asks for access to a certain application, start by downloading it on your own device to test its various features. Have a look at existing content and identify the components you want to discuss with your child to ensure they stay safe and sound.
