This video and these parent-teen discussion guides are designed to help you talk with your adolescent about their technology habits and about preventing online sexual violence.
What does this video talk about?
Liliane is looking at photos on her cellphone to pick which one to post on social media. Looking at each photo brings up negative thoughts about herself. She decides to change her appearance (clothes and makeup) to take a new photo, but she’s not happy with the result. Finally, she chooses to proudly post a pic of herself in which she has a medal.
What thoughts does Liliane have when she’s looking at her photos?
– She thinks she’s smiling too much (first photo).
– She’s afraid peole will say she’s bragging (photo
– She’s afraid people will judge her (kiss photo).
– She doesn’t think she looks pretty (family photo).
– She thinks she won’t get many likes (family photo).
Notice that Liliane has two types of thoughts.
About her appearance.
About what others might think of her.
Why do you think we place so much importance on what people think of us?
– To feel liked, admired and accepted.
– To feel like we belong to a group.
– Because it boosts our morale.
– Because it makes us feel self-confident.
What do you think about how the story ends?
Did Liliane do the right thing by posting the photo of herself with the medal?
In your view, is there a link between what people say about us and what we think of ourselves personally?
– There are links between the two things because we absorb people’s comments, as well as the messages that surround us (TV, social media, advertising, etc.). They all influence us.
– A good example of this is fashion. We often want to be fashionable, to be like others. And if we don’t follow the trends, sometimes this leads us to think we’re less cool or less good-looking or that we don’t measure up.
When you look at pictures of yourself, what thoughts come to mind?
Try to find the positive elements in what your teenager says, and talk about them more together.
In the video, we hear what the character thinks
fears other people’s judgment. In your view, what’s the long-term effect of these kinds of thoughts?
– They can have an impact on body image.
-They can have an impact on self-esteem.
– They can have an impact on self-confidence.
-Ultimately, they can have an impact on our relationships with others.
If we watched the video a second time, and every time Liliane makes a negative comment or puts herself down we tried to find something positive to say instead, what would those things be?
– She thinks she smiles too much.
I really look like I’m in a good mood, my joy is
– She’s afraid people will think she’s bragging.
I won a medal and I’m proud of it. I’m good at gymnastics. My friends and family will be proud of me, etc.
– She’s afraid people will judge her.
I’m creative with filters. I’m not afraid of being made fun of. This is an original photo, etc.
– She doesn’t think she’s pretty.
I’m surrounded by people who love me. I look happy. It was a fun moment, etc.
Last time, you told me some negative thoughts you have about yourself. Let’s do the same thing, let’s try to change all those thoughts into more realistic sand positive comments.
Tell me what you like about yourself.
What are your qualities?
What do other people like about you?
As a parent, you’re a major player in your teenager’s education, particularly when it comes to sexuality. You act as a model by conveying your values and sharing everyday life with them. By talking about these topics with your teen, you’re building a trusting relationship and a climate of openness when it comes to sexuality, which helps protect them from sexual violence.
Taking the time to talk with your teenager about subjects that concern them is an effective way to position yourself as a trusted adult they can turn to in case of distress or other need.
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